#3 The Family: Wives / Mothers
The wife must also be aware of the same four vital relationships. These relationships with God, her husband, her children and herself are where she draws her nourishment for growth and her strength for trials.
Relationship with God
Without this relationship all the others are strained.
2 Peter 3:9 The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.
God is not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.
How one comes to repentance
John 3:3-7 Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God. Nicodemus saith unto him, How can a man be born when he is old? can he enter the second time into his mother's womb, and be born? Jesus answered, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God. That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit. Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again.
John 3:14-17 And as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, even so must the Son of man be lifted up: That whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have eternal life. For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.
You must be born again to go to heaven.
This new birth occurs when one believes on Jesus.
To believe means to trust him, cling to him and rely on him.
Included in the relationship to God is service.
Psalm 2:11 Serve the LORD with fear, and rejoice with trembling.
Relationship with your husband
The commitment to the relationship is measured by your willingness to submit to your husband as God designed.
Ephesians 5:22-23 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
To submit or be subject means to follow God's plan for the family.
As Jesus submitted himself to the Father and the church submits itself to Jesus.
For any organization or institution to be strong and lasting, it must have a leader. As Jesus is the head of the church, the husband is God’s leader of the family.
Submission must be inward not just outward.
1 Peter 3:4-6 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
Submission influences the husband for good.
1 Corinthians 7:16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
A submitted wife is not conquered but converted and convinced.
Relationship to Self
Self-fulfillment can only come through Jesus.
Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.
Only by relying on the Lord can anyone find real happiness.
A woman then can find true fulfillment in her family
Proverbs 31:15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
Proverbs 31:21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
Proverbs 31:26-27 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
A woman who is loved and appreciated by her family knows true fulfillment.
A woman can also find fulfillment in her work outside the home.
Proverbs 31:16-19 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
Proverbs 31:24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.,
Proverbs 31:31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Understanding the following priorities will give you the right balance in life and find satisfaction in your family, and work
As the women’s movement turned fanatical and ugly in the 1960s and 70s the focus began to shift from reform and equal opportunity. The feminist leaders – humorless, militant, pugnacious, and angry with their particular lot in life, launched programs that were anti-God, anti-capitalism, anti-family, anti-birth, anti-heterosexual and fostered a virulent hatred of anything having to do with males.
The radical, cultural Marxist feminist agenda, no longer wants to equalize the status of women, but instead is working to alienate women from men and destroy the family.
“The fiction of fatherhood is a giant religion called Christianity.” – Jill Johnston in Lesbian Nation
Home and traditional family values are no longer accepted answers to the questions, “Who am I?” and, “What am I here for?” The preeminent purpose for some women have become their careers and themselves rather than their families and others.
To accomplish their goals, organizations such as the National Organization for Women (NOW), Planned Parenthood, the National Education Association, and the People for the American Way, the Gay-Lesbian Caucus, etc. now advocate unrestrained sex, homosexual rights, abortion on demand, and transgender rights. While simultaneously they attacking all the Bible, the Church, Christian beliefs, conservative organizations, and all the traditional family structures.
Dissolving the Family
Betty Friedan, founder of NOW, referred to traditional family life as a “comfortable concentration camp” from which women needed liberation. Sheila Cronan, one of the feminist movements most respected leaders and spokeswomen said, “Since marriage constitutes slavery for women, it is clear that the women’s movement must concentrate on attacking marriage.”
Beginning in the 1960s and 1970s they launched an all-out assault on our nation’s time-honored laws protecting the marriage union. Divorce was presented as an easy way out for the frustrated, disappointed or adventuresome.
Within a few years, they succeeded in overturning all fifty of the nation’s “fault” divorce statutes and replacing them with what is called no-fault divorce. It was understood as an effort to secure for women the economic, political and social rights and protections that men have always enjoyed. A spate of pseudo-scientific studies assured parents that children were resilient and would recover quickly from the effects of divorce.
In their zeal they also stripped away from women, especially mothers with children, many of the economic and legal protections they had historically enjoyed in this nation, thus creating a whole new underclass in American society: the abandoned divorced woman.
The number of displaced homemakers rose twenty-eight percent between 1975 and 1983 to more than three million women. Another twenty percent increase from 1983 to 1988 brought that number to more than four million. An astonishing sixty-one percent of those women suddenly left alone had children under the age of ten at home. Often without job skills and stranded without alimony or child support, as many as seventy percent of these women make less than ten thousand dollars a year, and fifty percent are employed at minimum wage or less. It is, thus, readily apparent why a full seventy-five percent of all Americans living below the poverty line in the United States are women and their children. -Sylvia Ann Hewlett, A Lesser Life: The Myth of Women’s Liberation in America (New York: William Morrow, 1986)
Militant feminists searching for power found the absolute best way to exercise their control was in the area of reproduction. Abortion became the single greatest avenue for militant women to exercise their quest for power and advance their belief that men aren’t necessary. They don’t need men to be happy. They certainly don’t want males to be able to exercise any control over them. Abortion thus became the ultimate symbol of women’s emancipation from the power and influence of men. With men being precluded from the ultimate decision-making process regarding the future of life in the womb, they are reduced to their proper, inferior role, that of a sperm donor.
Women were liberated from the home, from their husbands, from their children – from having to bear children at all. Fathers were liberated from their authority. Children were liberated from limits, from rules, even their parents. And the entire population was liberated from moral and ethical standards. Yet it turns out that those things were precisely what held society together. “Family values” have been so scorned that we are left with neither families nor values.